They’re curious about jerking off with another man, and wonder how they might go about it. Second, Lyon says, straightish men who find his website express relief that a place exists for people who share their predilections. “So that everyone’s sexuality is palatable to the masses, there are strict little boxes you have to be confined in. “There are a lot of dudes who are worried about their sexuality, who think something is wrong with them because of this notion of a rigid sex paradigm we’ve created in our society,” Lyon says. Yes, it’s harder for men to identify as bi or even straightish, because of the idea that it must mean they’re gay. Lyon said he doesn’t disagree with Savage’s response, but he makes two points about the heteroflexibility he and other men enjoy. After all, if it were truly okay for straight dudes to fantasize about men and enjoy masturbating with them, why not just call it “gayish?” Doesn’t “straightish” imply a discomfort with gayness, an attempt to distance oneself from homosexuality? (And if sucking dick allows straight men to “authenticate their heterosexuality,” wouldn’t there be gay men out there eating pussy to “authenticate” their homosexuality?) Straightness is so valued (and apparently so vulnerable) that some people can look at guys who put dicks in their mouths at regular intervals and construct book-length rationalizations that allow these guys to avoid identifying or being labeled as bi, gay, or queer. While acknowledging that, yes, a straight guy can have a gay or bi experience and still be straight, Savage points out the buddy-bating boner in the room here: Savage, for his part, calls bullshit on Ward’s book’s entire conceit. They identify as mostly straight and are often partnered with women, but like masturbating with other men (often while watching straight porn together), having sex with women while physically very close to another man, and/or watching men in porn in general. On Lyon’s Twitter account and blog, as well as in his podcast and interviews, he enthusiastically promotes this subculture of misunderstood, often shamed men. Maybe it’s just a woman blowing two dudes intermittently, or a closeup of double penetration - two dicks occupying both of a woman’s holes at the same time. Six years into running the site, he has nearly 200,000 followers, a large swath of whom are men curious about exploring a straightish identity.įYFF (the term friendly fire means men who ejaculate on each other in these adjacent sex acts) mostly features porn involving two men and one woman in engagements that sprinkle heterosexual porn with homoerotic overtones - that is, a lot of two-dicks, one–vagina action. It’s unclear how many men identify as straightish Lyon says he mostly uses the term to describe the porn he features, and prefers to identify himself as bisexual.